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Blogroll update

Posted by G.A. Matiasz on November 10, 2017

I’ve updated this site’s extended blogroll to delete five non-functioning links. Not bad for ten years of personal blogging. As always, please let me know if you find any other dead links.

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On Vacation Hold

Posted by G.A. Matiasz on October 11, 2013

ORIGINALLY POSTED SEPTEMBER 7, 2013(?)
This blog is on hold, so soon after I’ve started it up again. I’m going on vacation, and I don’t blog while I’m enjoying myself in strange countries. Actually, I’ll be away in a little over a week, but I have so much to do to prepare that I need to put the blog on hiatus now. Better to be fully immersed in the experience, both getting ready and enjoying my holiday.

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Why I stopped blogging

Posted by G.A. Matiasz on August 27, 2013

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There’s an old joke:

Q: So, what about your drinking problem?
A: What problem? I drink. I get drunk. I fall down. No problem!

By the end of 2009, I was having a personal crisis. I was never a falling-down, in-the-gutter drunk, but I was a drinker, and a steady drinker at that. Two beers, two Belgian ales a night, every night, and my habit was fucking with my life, not the least of it being my relationship with my wife. For one thing, I was lying to her all the time about when I was drinking, and how much I was drinking. We were in therapy, and she broke down, more than once, terrified that she had to live with an unrepentant alcoholic.

There were other things going on, the death of my cat Archy and then the death of my wife’s cat, Daisy, the year after. The loss of pets, any loss close to you, brings grief. I wanted to stop lying to my wife. By the end of 2009, I’d decided to stop drinking. I did so, on January 1, 2010.

I went into a deep depression as a consequence. It took 9 months to ease out of that depression, and to start seeing a glimmer of stability, not to mention happiness in my life. Two things helped. A Kaiser program, called Chemical Dependency Recovery Program, and a cognitive behavioral therapy based depression group therapy, also at Kaiser, were life saving.

But, I’ve never been very big into all that AA god stuff, all that “higher power” crap. I’m pretty much an atheist. What I did, instead, was start attending Zen Meditation & Recovery at the San Francisco Zen Center. I started going, even before I was out of CDRP or the Depression Group, and I’ve been going ever since. It has been more than a life saver, though my lack of belief in a deity prevents me from calling it a “god send.”

The past 4 plus years have been a slow, sometimes painful, but thankfully rather steady climb out of my personal crisis and depression. At some future date, I’ll post “How I started blogging again.” For now, enjoy this revitalized blog.

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Starting Again

Posted by G.A. Matiasz on August 26, 2013

I’m starting to add to this wordpress blog again. Inspired by Mykel Board’s assholery, I began with my other wordpress blog (leftyhooligan) and hopefully, I will find the energy to keep updating both on a regular basis.

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